There are a few things that are imperative in recovery; one of these vital things is seeking balance. Your recovery isn’t going to be linear. It’s not always going to be two steps forward and zero steps back. You’re going to have bad days. Expecting everything to go perfectly is only setting yourself up for failure.
You’re going to have to figure out what balance in recovery looks like for you. You can’t copy your friends’ recovery patterns and expect to see the same levels of success that they are having. You wouldn’t copy a classmate’s test in school knowing that you have a different version of the test than they have, so why try to conform to someone else’s method of recovery?
Your recovery is unique to you and your experiences. Take the time to figure out what works for you. Your balance is different from their balance. Embracing your unique path to recovery can help you be successful.
List Your Wins
During your recovery, you’re going to find times where you’re feeling low even if you’ve been relatively successful. This may be because you didn’t accomplish everything you hoped to do during the day. If you’re beating yourself up over the few things you didn’t accomplish, try writing down all of the things you did accomplish during the day.
No win is too small to record. Refer back to the list when you’re feeling disappointed with yourself. It’s important to find the balance between what you accomplished and what you didn’t. Getting too caught up in either can lead you down an emotional rabbit hole.
Time and Energy
You may worry that you don’t have enough time in the day to complete everything on your to-do list. If you’re feeling overwhelmed before your day has even begun, take a step back and assess your day. Figuring out what is important to you can help you focus your time on the most important things.
Oftentimes when we think we don’t have enough time, what we really lack is the energy to complete all of our tasks. To make sure you balance everything you need to do, assign your responsibilities a time frame and an energy level. Do your most important tasks first so that you can put all your effort into them.
Managing your time and energy is necessary during your recovery. You have to make sure that you are making time and saving energy for your self-care.
Relieve Yourself of Burdens
The more you carry burdens on your shoulders, the more anxiety you will have, and the less balanced you will feel. If you’re constantly feeling overwhelmed, there are probably areas of your life that are highly unbalanced. Take some time to assess what is actually an obligation.
Do you really have to do everything that you are putting on your plate? Are you taking precious time and energy to complete things that are insignificant? Finding a balance is about deciding what is most important. The fewer burdens you place on yourself, the more the scales will level out.
In order to relieve yourself of burdens, you’re going to have to get used to saying no. This is usually a place where many people struggle. You don’t want to let friends and family down by saying no. However, when you force yourself to say yes to something that isn’t in your best interest, you are letting yourself down.
Start to balance out your recovery by taking responsibility for your decisions. You don’t have to think up an excuse to say no. Remind yourself that your recovery is about keeping your best interests in mind. If something doesn’t work well for you, take responsibility and watch the balance be restored to your life.
Decide to Quit
You are allowed to quit things that don’t align with your recovery values and goals. If you are feeling highly unbalanced, take a look at the things that you are dealing with because you feel like you can’t quit them. It’s time to recognize that sticking with something that is making you miserable because you’re afraid to quit isn’t helping your mental, physical, or emotional wellness. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. If something isn’t bringing you joy or furthering your recovery, you can stop doing it.
Do It Now
One way you can create a sense of balance in your recovery is to allow yourself to do something uplifting. If you’re thinking about meditating or exercising or doing some act of self-care, go for it. The more you think about doing it, the more likely you are to talk yourself out of it.
Allow yourself to do something that furthers your recovery and makes you feel good. Doing an act of self-care is like hitting a reset button. If you’re feeling stressed or anxious, self-care can help bring you back to a balanced place. Don’t overthink your recovery. Do something for yourself now.
Sober Life is here to help you find balance in your recovery. We know recovery isn’t always easy, but nothing worth having is always easy. Seek a balance that will help you be successful in sobriety. Call our staff today at (619) 304-3014. We can’t wait to speak with you and get you the help you need today. We offer many programs that can be beneficial to you. You won’t be disappointed with what we have to offer.