We’ve all doubted ourselves at one time or another. You might have worked your hardest on something important to you, but there’s a nagging feeling that you didn’t do enough. Maybe you were told by others that you did a fantastic job, but a small part of you can’t accept that you deserve the praise. If you’re feeling a lack of self-confidence, you aren’t alone. Today, Sober Life will discuss how imposter syndrome may impact you and how you can overcome it in your recovery.
What is Imposter Syndrome?
You may not know it by name, but you have probably felt the impacts of imposter syndrome at one point or another. Imposter syndrome is the term given to the feelings you have that hold you back from getting what you deserve. When imposter syndrome attacks, it can tell you that you aren’t good enough, smart enough, or strong enough. It tells you that your achievements are a fluke and that, with one wrong move, everyone will find out that you are a fraud. These thoughts can keep you from success if you don’t have the proper tools to deal with them.
The Good News
While you’re in the middle of a spiral sparked by imposter syndrome, it might not feel like there is any good news. But that’s the thing about imposter syndrome — it is your mind playing a trick on you. Your mind will find a weakness and attack it. You don’t have to let it win, though. You have the power to take back your control. The quicker you’re able to recognize that your mind is lying to you, the sooner you can put imposter syndrome in its place. You don’t have to be overrun by the negative, nagging thoughts forever. You can leave imposter syndrome in the past.
Are You Surviving or Thriving?
Imposter syndrome can feel like a sleeping giant that you have to sneak by quietly to avoid waking it up. However, the more you operate like this, the more accustomed you get to living in survival mode. You deserve so much more in life than to just survive, though. You deserve to thrive!
If you are just surviving, you’ve learned to live with imposter syndrome. This can lead to feelings of hiding out, burning out, or freaking out. Let us explain.
If you’re feeling like you’re hiding out, you might try to use your hardworking nature to blend in with the crowd. You might feel like speaking up will leave you vulnerable, so you keep your head down and push through the difficult emotions.
If you’re feeling like you’re on the verge of burnout, you might find that you have been demanding perfection of yourself. If you’re perfect, no one has a reason to suspect that you might not be the best person for the job.
If you’re feeling like you’re about to freak out, you’ve probably pushed yourself to your limit. You most likely find that you have been bottling up your emotions for so long that you are close to exploding.
If any of these situations sound familiar, you aren’t alone. Take that good news we talked about earlier and put it into practice. Regain control of your life and understand that you don’t have to soak up the lies that your imposter syndrome is feeding you. Leave it in the past and work on thriving in your recovery.
Create a Plan
With a strong plan and a willingness to change your thought patterns, you can learn to leave imposter syndrome in your past. Your recovery will require you to do some hard work, but the payoff of truly thriving is so worth it.
Your plan should start by understanding the ways that imposter syndrome shows up for you in your life. Some people tend to disqualify the positive situations they find themselves in and only focus on the negative aspects that fit their narrative. Other people have a habit of finding reasons to believe their negative thoughts and rationalize them. Imposter syndrome doesn’t always show up in the same ways for everyone, so understanding how it shows up for you is essential.
Once you can notice when that negative voice is popping up, you must be able to stop yourself from automatically giving it the power to take over your situation. You might be used to minimizing your successes and focusing on your mistakes. Instead, pause and remind yourself that you don’t have to fall into the same trap. Use the pause as an opportunity to put the thought through a rationality filter. Is the thought you’re having actually true? Are there facts to back up the way you are feeling? Or, is there another way you can look at the situation and find that you are not thinking rationally? Most of the time, you’ll find that these negative thoughts have no factual basis to them. If this is the case, you do not have to act on negative thinking. Let it go and focus your efforts and energy on what is true.
Another part of your plan should be focused on things you can do to combat these thoughts. Getting into a habit of doing something healthy and productive is a great way to take advantage of the pause and rationality filter. Try to journal your thoughts and explore why you are feeling the way you are. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend when the negative thoughts are overwhelming. More often than not, you’ll find that others have been where you are and can help you work through the difficult moments. Having a healthy and positive plan will lead you down the path of thriving and allow you to leave imposter syndrome in your past.
You aren’t alone if you relate to the feelings that are associated with imposter syndrome. At one point or another, everyone has questioned what they’re doing and where they belong. If you’re struggling to come to terms with where you are right now, Sober Life can help you focus on your recovery and find ways to overcome the negative thought patterns and cognitive distortions that you have that may be holding you back from achieving the success you deserve. Call Sober Life today at (619) 542-9542. We can’t wait to speak with you and help create a personalized plan that works for you. Don’t let that little voice in your head grow to be so loud that it holds you back from greatness. We can help. Call Sober Life now!